tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-235398265133825592.post5815041060020477674..comments2013-07-23T22:58:46.195-05:00Comments on Imperfectly Married: On AttractivenessImperfectly Marriedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12054771273864167350noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-235398265133825592.post-34770074606878112772010-10-30T01:31:27.279-05:002010-10-30T01:31:27.279-05:00Hmmm. I more worry for myself. I've put on som...Hmmm. I more worry for myself. I've put on some weight in the last 6 months. Not much, but enough so that I don't feel amazing. <br /><br />I think the only thing that would turn Paddy off would be my own self-consciousness. <br /><br />I'm on to it now though. Have to before the wedding!Miss Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11831964957323606168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-235398265133825592.post-28776363143253958542010-10-19T20:57:48.995-05:002010-10-19T20:57:48.995-05:00YES! And I've gained weight since our wedding ...YES! And I've gained weight since our wedding too so I've been self conscious, which isn't good for me or him (or our relationship). Like you said, I know he'll never not love me, but it's important that he still finds me as attractive as he used to! I agree with Em 1000% - Sex/intimacy is a HUGE part of a marriage, and physical appearance is a large part of that!Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14477909099094323936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-235398265133825592.post-4234437531177020162010-10-19T20:06:24.829-05:002010-10-19T20:06:24.829-05:00Emily, I am in your brain. It's quite comfy. ...Emily, I am in your brain. It's quite comfy. <br /><br />Just kidding! Ok I'm glad I didn't 1, make my hubs look like a huge dbag and 2, sound like vain beotch. I've gained some weight too and I feel like ass, that's what brought the whole conversation between Coach and I. Not wanting to get comfortable at that weight completely makes sense. I think if it's reasonable then it's fine, but it can veer off into unhealthy, then its not so fine (obvsi, but I gotta say it!). I think we're both petite girls, and I think that small amounts of weight that many people scoff at show up differently on small frames. I am so where you're at right now. For me it's more of a wake up call to be more consistent about my workouts and more conscious of what I'm putting in my mouth. <br /><br />I'm so glad you found your way over here! And thank you for saying such nice things...I re-wrote this 10 x because I had such a hard time getting it out of my head in a somewhat sensible fashion.Imperfectly Marriedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12054771273864167350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-235398265133825592.post-75121607094812174732010-10-19T19:55:27.542-05:002010-10-19T19:55:27.542-05:00YESSSS!!! 10000% yes. I've had some thoughts b...YESSSS!!! 10000% yes. I've had some thoughts brewing about doing a post like this. (Thanks for stealing it, btw. Are you in my brain? Jk.) <br /><br />I don't believe in "letting yourself go" just because you're married. Sex/intimacy is a HUGE part of a marriage. Lose that and you lose a lot, I think. I spend a lot of time/money to make sure I look attractive to Josh and although he doesn't spend money on make up or his hair, I expect him to look nice for me, too. I've gained some weight since our wedding and I feel like shit because I don't look as good as I did a few months ago. I know he loves me and thinks I'm "do-able" (love that) but I don't want to get comfortable at this weight. Does that make sense?<br /><br />Anyway, fantastic post. Agree a billion percent. You're awesome :)EmilyBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03977456818179074757noreply@blogger.com