Monday, February 21, 2011

On Birthdays

Coach's birthday is in April.  I really want to do some birthday a**-kicking this year, but so far it isn't working out.

Attempt 1:  Coach is lusting after a table saw.  I thought he liked a compact one at Lowe's for $300, which I was going to buy for him after squirreling away a month's worth of freelancing money.  Then I find out he has only been looking at that one since that's the only one we can reasonably afford any time soon, and that he actually needs the $800.  I can't squirrel enough freelancing money away for that, so there goes that idea.

Attempt 2:  Coach has zero guy friends in the town we live in-they all live in his hometown 2 hours away.  With his travelling schedule for work, the last thing he wants to do on his 1 or 2 weekends off every 3 months is travel.  So I thought it would rock to bring some of his guy friends down to visit him, as a surprise, for his birthday.  But Coach doesn't have a single free weekend in all of April.  Idea 2, struck down.

Oh, and he wants a stupid toilet for his birthday.  A toilet.  Home improvement stuff like that is not a birthday present to me, it's something we buy out of the funds we've set aside for the house.

Current Attempt:  A John Pils print of the new Busch Stadium and Sportsmen's Park, framed for his office.  Also, a nice dinner out at his favorite steak joint.  And maybe a toilet. 

I wanted his birthday to be awesome, but I am foiled at every turn!

Have you ever had a time of it trying to make something special for your partner?

Sunday, February 13, 2011

On Romancing

I read this article on Simple Mom a couple of days ago.

The article was written by Alisa Bowman, who is coming out with a book called "Project Happily Ever After."

Normally I don't dig relationship self help books, because I pick out every sign of disaster in a relationship that they mention and search wildly through Coach's and I's relationship and become convinced that we're doomed.  So I steer clear.

But I loved this article.  The whole premise is to let your partner know that they are adored, and to never take them for granted.  And vice versa of course.  But flowers, chocolates or fancy dinners are not the focus.

The simple things are, the every day things.  Like when Coach gets out of bed early to turn the space heater on for me in our bathroom, so I can have a nice warm shower.  Or when he cooks dinner AND does the dishes because I have lots of freelancing work I have to do.  I try my best to do the same for him.

The little things, the daily things that make a partnership a loving one.  Coach has never been one for big, sweeping romantic gestures....but that's OK, because he knocks it out of the park on a daily basis.  Most of the time at least!

How do you make your partner feel adored?

Wednesday, February 2, 2011

On Favorites

Kim posted about her favorite moment regarding her wedding...which got me thinking about mine.

Coach and I saw each other for pictures before the ceremony.  We also had our receiving line right before the ceremony...which was unbelievably amazing.  Right in the middle of the chaos of greeting over 200 guests in a span of 15 minutes and trying to keep it all together, I grabbed my almost-husband and yanked him into the "bridal" room.  You know, one of those rooms with awkward furniture and random mirrors?

It was our only moment alone until we hit the hotel room that night.  We didn't even say much, we just looked at each other and grinned.  He held my face in his hands, looked me in the eyes and told me how beautiful I looked.  We told each other that we loved them, we kissed....and we got married.  And it was awesome. 

That little 30 second piece of time on our crazy wonderful wedding day makes me melt every time I think about it. 

What was your favorite, ethereal, knee-weakening moment?