I'm terrified of not being attractive to Coach.
OK, not to make my husband sound like an ass, but fitness is his life. He's a cross country coach for goodness sakes. He doesn't expect me to look like a fitness model, but he does expect me to at least try to maintain some level of physical fitness. The man thinks I look the hottest all sweaty in a sports bra and running shorts. And it's not like he doesn't hold himself to certain standards either-he's a marathoner, he cares very much about being healthy.
I feel like I'm making him sound a total ass. Please don't think that about him, he really isn't. I've always known this about him-it's not like a bomb that he dropped on me post-marriage. And I know that he will always love me, no matter what. But I also know that he will not be attracted to me, no matter what. To him I think it's a way of showing your partner that you love them-by loving and caring for yourself.
So I guess I shouldn't say that I am terrified of not being attractive to my husband. It just means that I'm always going to be conscious of this. And frankly, Coach would make my mind rest much, much easier if he would tell me that I look nice, or do-able, etc, but that just isn't him. Though it does make the times he tells me I look beautiful/sexy/etc that much more meaningful.
Do you worry about being attractive to your partner?