My father-in-law is an elementary school principal. He used to be a kindergarten teacher.
My mother-in-law works with early childhood development.
My in-laws lives revolve around little kids. They want grandkids so, so badly. The grandkid pressure started up mere months after we got engaged. 6 months before the wedding my FIL told me that he "wouldn't mind a bit if I walked down the aisle with a preggo belly." At Coach's family's Easter get-together, my FIL publicly pointed out, in front of 50+ family members, that his brother has 7 grandkids and that it isn't fair. My MIL is even worse. Every single time we see them they want to know when we're going to provide them with grandkids. Every single time it is a major focus of conversation. It used to be funny, but it isn't at all anymore.
To make matters just a little more sensitive, I have known since I was 18 that getting pregnant was't going to be easy for me. Coach, trying to help with the situation, told his parents all about my previously-private medical condition. So they know all about it, which makes me really uncomfortable. And to complicate things, that knowledge that Coach imparted to them has done nothing to abate the baby talk.
I've been very clear with my in-laws that I put my career on hold for their son, and that I owe it to myself to pursue my career for the next 4-5 years. At that point they told me that "we were your age when we had Coach's oldest sister, and everything turned out just fine, what's the problem."
Nothing works with them. They keep bringing it up, and bringing it up. It makes me feel like nothing but a walking uterus. It makes me feel like I absolutely no value to them except for birthing them a grandkid. I know they mean well, but they have zero tact when it comes to this recurring conversation. It makes me want to avoid spending time with them.
Normally with my in-laws, I chalk it up to them meaning well, and wanting the best for us. I've come to terms with differing parenting styles. I've stopped taking my MIL's backhanded comments literally and I've learned to give her the benefit of the doubt. But these people know that I have medical issues that could very prevent me from ever getting pregnant, they know that I have stated very clearly on numerous occasions that Coach and I need to enjoy our time together after a year and a half of a long distance relationship before we introduce kids into the equation. None of this gets through to them at all; it's so frustrating. And every time they start in, I think about what's going to happen if I can't get pregnant, and can't give Coach a baby of his own. Because he's going to be the best dad.
So yeah. My in-laws won't STF about how they want grandkids like yesterday. THANK GOD some friends of ours who live up there popped out a kid that she can go and visit. I feel like I should pay them.
I know the next thing to do would be to bluntly but nicely tell my in-laws to please stop pestering us for grandkids. But trust me, they do NOT do well with bluntness. They're the beat-around-the-bush type. Which clearly ISN'T WORKING.
Are your in-laws/parents on the warpath for grandkids?